![]() ![]() ![]() Do we ruminate over failures and mistakes, or are we able to find the silver lining in our struggles? What aspects we focus on when we tell the story of our life, the story of how we became who we are, has an impact on our sense of self. Our well-being is influenced by our ability to form a favourable narrative of our lives. Whenever I felt sad lately, I tried to go back to a good memory, no matter how distant, and it made me feel better. In his book, Meik Wiking explores the research that suggests “people are happier with their lives if they tend to hold a positive, nostalgic view of the past.” He believes that this nostalgia can produce “positive feelings, boost our self-esteem and increase our sense of being loved by another.” I’ve let my memories be consumed by bad days or hurtful conversations that feel so irrelevant now. ![]() I hate that throughout my life, I’ve always focused on things that don’t matter. Reading this book triggered a lot of childhood moments I’d forgotten, and most of them were good. ![]() I was reading The Art of Making Memories: How to Create and Remember Happy Moments by Meik Wiking, when I realised I tend to remember all the bad things, and forget the good ones. And yet, I remember vividly every bad thing that has ever happened to me, no matter how small. I can’t remember people’s names or birthdays. I forget things a second after they happened. ![]()
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